October 07 , 2016

Why the practice of saying yes needs exactly 44 Days

I could have given you "30 Days of Yes!" instead of 44.  That would have been more expected, right.  Well, today is the day when I reveal why 44.

Drumroll, please...

Today is my birthday.  I am now 44.

But there is more to it than that.
October is National Bullying Prevention Month so I knew I wanted to write something to bring attention to this issue.  But, I didn't want to write about bullying, per se, although it is a critical issues to address.  I am more interested in the super powers that we have - and can develop - that have the potential to make the whole idea of bullying obsolete.  

So, last weekend, my wife and I decided (at the last minute) to celebrate my birthday (and take some much needed time away from our daughter) at a bed and breakfast in Mendocino, CA.  On our 3 1/2 hour drive up from Oakland, we had a fabulously deep conversation about the big projects we were currently taking on.  We talked about our hopes a little bit and our fears a lot.  I was proud of how much wisdom I was able to spout about saying yes to the things that scare us; the things that challenge us; the things that threaten/promise to turn our worlds upside down.  Plus, Allison has recently been obsessed with Shonda Rimes' book, Year of Yes: How to Dance It Out, Stand In the Sun and Be Your Own Person (a book I was also obsessed with last year around this time).  Our trip was just getting started, but already I was feeling inspired, invigorated.

20161001_105423.jpgAllison and me at the headlands in Mendocino

So, later that evening, while I was in bed meditating to the sounds of the ocean waves right outside our door, it hit me.  "I'll do 30 Days of YES!  I clearly have a lot to say about this.  Why not share it with others who are also working to show up in a bigger way?"

Now, here's what happened after that. 

  1. I remembered I was approaching my 44th birthday.
  2. I realized that this series would premiere on Oct 4.
  3. Then, I noticed we were staying in Room #4!

I jumped up, grabbed my phone and googled "the meaning of 4."  This is what I learned.

"The 4 energy seeks security and 'home' is their haven. People under the influence of the 4 are usually very cerebral, and need to find ways to express their knowledge and wisdom. The number 4 symbolizes the principle of putting ideas into form and signifies work and productivity....4 is the number of Foundation..."

Whoa.  This is the exact energy I have been seeking - building up a strong from which to grow, explore, and change.  Saying yes does this for us.  Saying yes is one of those super powers we have that allows us to accept ourselves and others just as they are.  Saying yes allows us to get present with who we are, what we know and believe, and decide what to do next with that information.  Saying yes is the foundation of a playful and connected life.  

So, there you have it.  The magic of 44.  Above, you will see the diagram I created to help me remember my foundation - these are the areas that I work to say yes to everyday.  

How are you building your foundation for growth and change?

44_Days_of_Yes.pngThis is Post #4 in 44 Days of YES! - a series of posts for Girl Advocates who know that empowering girls means we must empower ourselves first.  Sign up for free inspiration, practical YES! hacks, and connection to other Girl Advocates just like you.

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